#NoBloPoMo November 5 & 6: Lessons & Fear

Thursday, November 5

What is the most important lesson you learned as a child, and who taught it to you?

Friday, November 6

What was your biggest fear as a child? Do you still have it today? If it went away, when did your feelings changes?

“You’re the smart one.”

I heard that a lot when I was a kid. It gave me confidence in my brain but not much else. I learned from a very young age that being smart was important and that being smart was only part of intelligence. Diligence, persistence, and hard work were also necessary to be truly intelligent. The unfortunate side effect of this statement was that I pretty much felt deficient in all the other aspects of life. If I was the “smart one” then I wasn’t the funny one or the pretty one or the athletic one or the talented one… just the smart one. No one really likes the smart one, not really. It’s okay to think that the smart one is the nerd and is annoying and strange.

Being the smart one also meant being afraid of making mistakes, being called out, fearing failure most of all. Spiders were scary, heights were scary, coyotes were scary but not nearly as scary as failure.

Sometimes I still feel like the “smart one” in ballet class. Not the popular one, not the one that looks good in ballet clothes, not the talented and athletic one, just the smart one.  When the smart one makes mistakes, it’s far worse than when the popular one makes a mistake, she can laugh at it and everyone still thinks she’s cool. The pretty one makes it look cute. The talented one added flair and the athletic one muscled through. But the smart one just makes a mistake. Is this the truth? Probably not. But sometimes that’s still how I feel. And sometimes when I’m feeling like the 7-year-old smart one, I wonder if being called the pretty one comes with a similar set of paranoid feeling.

Writing Challenges for November #NoBloPoMo

So, my friends, I do not know what craziness I am possessed by but… I’m sure by now you are familiar with November being a month of writing – write your novel, write your dissertation, write your blog, etc. etc.  So BlogHer.com is holding #NoBloPoMo where bloggers write every day of the month of November. It’s not like I don’t have a million things going on this month but what the hey, I’ve been a very absent blogger so maybe this will be good for me.  These are the prompts from the BlogHer website. BlogHer isn’t a ballet blog so these prompts aren’t dance related so I’ll do my best. So let’s sharpen those pencils, pour a big cup of coffee and get going! Happy November and Happy #NoBloPoMo #NaNoWriMo #AcWriMo or whatever you might be writing this month!!

Monday, November 2

What was the one toy that a friend had that you wished you had when you were little?

Tuesday, November 3

What did you think was the coolest job in the world when you were younger? Do you still feel that way now?

Wednesday, November 4

When you were a kid, did you want to have the same job or a different job than your parents when you grew up?

Thursday, November 5

What is the most important lesson you learned as a child, and who taught it to you?

Friday, November 6

What was your biggest fear as a child? Do you still have it today? If it went away, when did your feelings changes?

Monday, November 9

What is the first thing you do every single day (I mean, after you hit the snooze button)? When did that step in your routine begin?

Tuesday, November 10

What is the hardest part of a big project: getting the energy to begin, finding the time to work on it, or feeling down that it’s over?

Wednesday, November 11

What was the last thing you fixed or built?

Thursday, November 12

If you had a personal assistant who would do your most dreaded tasks, which items from your to-do list would you assign out?

Friday, November 13

Describe your ideal day off. What would you do with your time?

Monday, November 16

Pretending you have the expertise to make the product a reality, what do you wish you could invent?

Tuesday, November 17

What is one place you need to see to feel like your life is complete?

Wednesday, November 18

What do you hope people remember about you after you’re gone?

Thursday, November 19

Where would you want to retire if money wasn’t an issue?

Friday, November 20

What do you hope happens by the end of this year?

Monday, November 23

What do you do better than anyone else?

Tuesday, November 24

Who is an expert you admire and why?

Wednesday, November 25

Do you think it’s better to be a recognized expert for one thing, or known to be really good at lots of things?

Thursday, November 26

If you’re celebrating Thanksgiving today (or even if you’re not!), tell us about the best cook in your family.

Friday, November 27

What’s the best purchase you ever made?

Monday, November 30

What do you like to do to celebrate an accomplishment?